Battered Women
Evelyn Lozada Responds to Chad Johnson’s Shady Tweet Claiming She Messed Up His Life [video]
I saw Evelyn’s video the other day, and sort of forgot that I had a blog. Then today it came up again, and I decided to discuss.
Chad tweeted:
Evelyn Lozada knew what Chad was saying. He was insinuating that she messed up his life when he hit her after being caught cheating.
Before we even discuss Evelyn’s response, let’s just assume that Chad was indeed talking about the incident where he put his hands on the woman he claimed to love.
This lack of accountability is sourface. What many people don’t know is that the reason a lot of women don’t call the police on their abuser is because they don’t want to embarrass him or mess up his career. The women become sacrificial martyr lambs for the abuse.
As the abuse goes on, you think the man would stop. Most times he doesn’t. He has no care for his own career and reputation. His ego says it’s more important for him to put his hands on a woman, DESPITE the potential of losing it all.
Men who hit women often feel invincible.
Now, once he said that, people went over to Evelyn claiming that SHE ruined HIS life.
What kind of world do we live in where people actually blame the battered woman for speaking up for herself?
Not to mention Evelyn doesn’t mention the incident much. She didn’t drag Chad’s name through the mud, and she was real cool about it.
But as to the pain of her tears, Evelyn is also practicing self-sacrifice in her relationships.
Many GOOD women suffer in relationships, because men were not created to appreciate the hearts of a good woman. Most men have a low EQ.
They have just about ZERO value for a woman showing them love or even appreciating them. Which is why most chase women who don’t want them. Men have a hardcore value system playing out, and that system does not value LOVE.
Watch Evelyn’s response below, and let me know your thoughts.
Lozada addressed the drama she’s had with her Basketball Wives co-stars involving Johnson. During Season 8 of the VH1, Lozada and OG Chijindu feuded over her alleged involvement with Johnson.
“When it comes to Basketball Wives, I know that people tend to connect my character on the show with what happened to him,” she said. And I understand that to a certain degree… I know that I’m the one that has made us look bad and I’m sorry. I understand that I didn’t always handle things the right way. I’m embarrassed. I’m embarrassed for my family because this is a forever thing. The person that I am on Basketball Wives and who I am as a mother and who I’ve been in my personal relationships, whether it be with Carl [Crawford] or Chad, are two totally different things. What happened to me that day and other days I didn’t deserve.
Of course she didn’t deserve to be hit and embarrassed by the world knowing that she married the wrong man. That’s deep wounding.
But to Evelyn’s credit, rather she is still with Carl Crawford or not, she pulled a boss move when Chad hit her, she left him and months later she popped up pregnant on the beach by a bigger baller.
That was almost just as good as Ciara’s continued stunting on Future, who treated her like sh*t.
A woman’s value in this world, is not attached to a man. But that’s how society judges you. They literally judge you based upon if you’re in a relationship and if your man is providing for you or not. And rather your man is providing or not, if he’s violent that’s a VERY bad look for a woman.
It’s very narcissistic of a man to violate a woman, embarrass her because she is attached to a man who violates her, then to turn around and play victim, and put his emotions over that of the woman he caused pain to.
Bad men often don’t realize that they are embarrassments. Men do so much crap, that when a woman finally gets a good man, she’s too afraid to discuss him for fear that he will eventually do something to embarrass her.
No woman wants to admit that she’s surrounded by bad men or a bad man.
My only hope is that good men are put on a pedestal and that a spotlight be shown on them. The world desperately needs to see good men.
As to Evelyn’s comments on her “character” on the show, I won’t judge her and say that she made women look bad with all of the fighting. Classy women were not inspired to suddenly be ghetto. Classy women already understand that tv is about ratings.
It’s better to be a character on tv and getting paid, I suppose. Fame is fame. You can do a lot of great things with fame.
But violent chicks definitely thought fighting was the way to go due to Baskeball Wives and Love & Hip Hop. Yet Evelyn shouldn’t feel bad. They simply gave the people want they wanted. They didn’t want the Cosby show. They wanted the violence and the drama show.
But the identify of that CHARACTER and how society relates to it, can be a bit much to deal with. Life is about being more of your authentic self.
I believe that is what Tamar was really saying when she tried to commit suicide. A few reports said that Tamar said that she was a “SLAVE” and that death was the only way out.
As to Evelyn crying on the video, that makes people feel she’s actually being inauthentic, because she couldn’t possibly be crying over a man hitting her unteen years ago. I assumed she was crying due to the harassment from the internet people. Internet people often assume celebrities are not human beings with emotions and feelings.
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